There is no such thing as remaining neutral. It truly is not possible. When friends fight, people always take sides. Always. You can pretend that you aren't, you can continue to see both parties, and you can keep your opinions to yourself. No matter what you do, though, you end up picking a side.
So instead of acting neutral, pick openly. Choose someone. It hurts a lot less to know that you have been betrayed outright, than it does to find out after the fact. Speaking from personal experience, my unfortunate roommate situation has caused a divide in friends. People picked sides. Some left entirely, I suppose you could call them "neutral" but i tend to think of them as casualties. They are completely not part of equation anymore. Out of those who stayed, some chose my side and some chose the other side. I'm okay with that. I realize that I am not entirely blame less. I did pack up everything and disappear without any warning. However, had I stayed, I don't think I would have survived the rest of the school year. The point is not about who is right and who is wrong. The point is that it is impossible not to choose one person over another.
Forget about lying, forget about pretending, and forget about "sparing feelings"... pick your side and be ready to defend your answer. When it comes to friendships, choose wisely. A fall-out is always close at hand.
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