Raise Your Standards

Don't give me that... If you're dating a ______ (hockey star, swimmer, frat boy, etc.) raise your glass. If not, raise your standards.... bullshit.

I love people with high standards. I love being one of them and I love chasing the guy who has them. Yes, I am actually telling you to have high expectations and to hold people to them. I can't tell you how many times I've heard, "oh, gosh... lower your standards or you won't have anyone." Here is the problem: I don't want just anyone! I want an amazing someone. The way I see it is a guy (or girl) who loves you should want to hold himself up to a higher level for you; just like you need to hold yourself up to that higher level for him.

What are the top 5 things you cannot be happy without? I think that like most people, you have a couple deal breakers. The real issue is when you step back and look at your deal breakers, they are not harsh enough. You probably make it too easy to date you. You might still be settling, even for the guy who has lived up to all your "so-called" standards. Are you going to leave him because he has glasses or because he yells at you in public? Does is matter if he's under six feet or that he thinks it's cute to ignore your calls? Okay, so those are pretty obvious. But-- How many of us want a nice, romantic guy? I do! Except, is a romantic guy good enough for you? Shouldn't you want a guy who loves you unconditionally? The point is that even though we think we have standards, they often don't require that we actually get what we deserve. The man who is willing to step up to the challenge, now that's a man worth keeping.

Top 5 Things I Cannot Live Without

1. Unconditional Love
2. Respect
3. Loyalty
4. Making the Relationship a Priority
5. No Lies (Trust and Honesty)