A Lesson on Love

Once upon a time... And they got married, and the princess lived happily ever after!

Excuse me?! Since when does a girl have to get married in order to find happiness? I used to think that love was all about finding your other half. You had to search and search until you found that one person who completed you. Until that happens, you are left wandering and lonely. I thought that I would only know true happiness when I fell head over heals for a guy and he showed me everything that I was missing. I thought that I was supposed to be his other half, and he was to be mine. I thought that an essential part of me was lacking due to his absence. This view is seriously confused.

Don't get me wrong, I totally believe in love. But, I think that you can only be happy when you're in love if you were already happy before you started falling. There is something to be said for making your own happiness and having your footing within your own life. It's only once you are truly content alone that you are able to share so much more with someone else.

I am speaking from experience. I am a disaster waiting to happen. If something is likely to go wrong, it will happen to me. I am the girl who gets caught doing something that her friends have gotten away with a hundred times, the one that had cops show up at her first party, or is seen out by the person she told that she was sick. The ironies of life have come to define me. Throughout this, I found that I cannot allow my happiness to rest on the shoulders of someone else. With so much of life being left up to chance, counting on another person to keep me feeling happy is a wasted effort. I am single at this time in my life and yet, I am happy. I love the person that I have become. I plan to be a great addition to some lucky guy's life as I hope he will be a great addition to mine. Yet, I am not expecting him to provide me with my sense of self. I am a strong, young woman complete with my own personality. I know that I am worth loving exactly as I am. The right guy will know that, too!